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That is something my mother always taught us not to say. It fits here though. I find that the best listeners are quiet. To some people (I’ll admit I am one) they seem to not be interested in what we are saying. We are accustomed to others interrupting us as well as diving in to the joint-pontification we all easily participate in. Really though, they know when to shut up and listen. If... moreThat is something my mother always taught us not to say. It fits here though. I find that the best listeners are quiet. To some people (I’ll admit I am one) they seem to not be interested in what we are saying. We are accustomed to others interrupting us as well as diving in to the joint-pontification we all easily participate in. Really though, they know when to shut up and listen. If you watch they are often nodding or offering small interjections, showing us they are tracking with us. Whether you are communicating in a marriage or friendship, the first key is putting a stop to both the flow of your own mouth as well as your mind. Have you ever been caught not listening after someone has told you a story? I have, and it was usually due to the fact that I was either formulating my response or I was lost in the busyness of my thoughts. Both of these quickly show we are not listening and usually form an opinion in the other persons mind. It forms mis-trust and leads to walls in our communication. view page